The first thing you need to do after a breakup is remember who the f*ck you are. But how can you remember what you need to when you were in a relationship that required you to forget what you could not afford to forget (your strength, your standards, and yourself )? How could this happen after you gave so much and asked for so little? Why wasn’t it enough? Why weren’t you enough?

Get the closure you need, the answers you haven’t been able to find, and WIN (without reducing anything to a game) with “Win Your Breakup,” the #1 Wall Street Journal and USA Today bestseller, written by Natasha Adamo. This book is a powerful tool for navigating the aftermath of a breakup with a toxic ex.

Winning your breakup is not about acting on vengeful feelings, becoming a carrot-dangling tactician, or playing games. It’s about a willingness to do what you have never done before and having the courage to look in the mirror. It’s about using spiteful feelings to your dignified advantage after realizing you’ve invested in a relational Ponzi scheme.

Unlike a game, breakups are won through resignation. They’re won by giving up on trying to make sense out of nonsense. They’re won by realizing that the real “win” was losing a partner who does not have the ability to meet you anywhere close to halfway. This mentality delivers everything you hope cheap revenge will but never does.